Who doesn’t enjoy being noticed and appreciated? Even the most reserved among us value recognition, though perhaps in more quiet ways. In a world often focused on self, being genuinely seen and acknowledged by others has become a rare and cherished experience.
This past year, I’ve been reading through the Bible and am now in 2 Chronicles. I am amazed at the patience God shows to the children of Israel despite their murmuring, complaining, and fits. He sees them—the good, the bad, and the ugly—and still loves them.
Sometimes it’s hard to love our students, especially when they challenge us, are difficult to manage, or maybe don’t even like us. It is in situations like these that I’m so grateful to God that He is the one who knows my heart and truly sees me.
As an educator, I often don’t see the immediate impact of my words and actions, especially now that I teach at an online school. Many times, I wonder how my words and actions have impacted my students. Did I reflect Jesus to them?
It’s truly wonderful when a current or former student reaches out to tell you that you made a difference in their life. It feels like receiving a million-dollar check in the mail. Perhaps because my love language is words of affirmation, these notes of gratitude are especially meaningful to me.
I have learned over the years that when I’m feeling down and I help someone else, I lose sight of my own problems and my spirits are lifted. I’d like to apply this to the idea of noticing and appreciating others. How can I show appreciation to my students and co-workers, especially when they—or I—have had a difficult day? Here are two practical ideals that have worked for me:
Be Genuine: Actually mean what you say. Practice phrasing compliments and feedback in a kind and truthful way. Authenticity builds trust and strengthens relationships. Romans 12:9 advises, “Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”
Be Specific: When giving compliments and feedback, comment on the particular details or traits of character that you see. God is precise when describing his servant Job by saying “…he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil” in Job 1:8. Being specific makes your words more meaningful and genuine.
By remembering these two simple principles, teachers and students alike can create meaningful connections, contribute positively to their learning environment, and reflect the love and teachings of Christ.
Author
Anna Chaparro
Anna, MC, B.Ed, is currently teaching Art, Music, PE, Spelling and Careers at West Coast Adventist School, an online K-12 school based in Abbotsford, BC, Canada. She has 15 years combined experience teaching in Adventist and Public schools as well as working as a Life Coach and School Counsellor.